You're right not to let people tell you God doesn't love you.

It is our right and it is our job. Arm yourselves well.

A lot of people read what they've been told is in the Bible, rather than what's actually there. I've found that getting people to see what's there can change minds and hearts. Perhaps these few things I wrote (http://www.livejournal.com/users/daegaer/tag/homosexuality) might prove useful to you.